What’s a chapter of your life you’d title “The Hard Years” — and what got you through it?
The hardest of ‘hard years’ were the years when my children were very small and both my parents were terminally ill and we lived 300 miles apart. The support of my husband and friends helped me get through it, but in truth, as an only child with no substantial extended family, what got me through it was me. I emerged from that period changed and damaged forever. The damage buried deep beneath many layers of a woman who was coping with whatever life was throwing at me.
Hard years just like good years are the foundations that the years yet to come are built on. The cracks and fault lines caused by the hard years are just that. Cracks and fault lines, good years build strength and stability around them. I know where the cracks are and they can largely be avoided. Sometimes one trips me up when I least expect it. Flying over Australia recently, opened up a crack I didn’t even know was there. Suddenly I was grieving for all the stuff I didn’t do while I was busy coping with all the serious stuff that hard years generate.
Thank goodness we are not required to mourn missing out on serious stuff when life is all tickety boo. That would be a counterproductive cycle of thinking.
Into Each Life Some Rain Must Fall
Song by Ella Fitzgerald and The Ink Spots
Into each life some rain must fall
But too much is falling in mine
Into each heart some tears must fall
But someday the sun will shine
Some folks can lose the blues in their hearts
When I think of you another shower starts
Into each life some rain must fall
But too much is falling in mine
Into each life some rain’s got to fall
Too much, too much, too much is falling in mine
Into each heart some tears must fall
But someday the sun will shine
Some folks can lose the blues in their hearts
But when I think of you, pretty baby
That’s when another shower starts
Into each life some rain’s got to fall
Too much, too much, too much is falling in mine, oh yeah
Into each and every life some rain is bound to fall
But too much of that stuff is falling in mine
And into each heart some tears must fall
But I know, baby, that someday that old sun is bound to shine
Some folks can lose the blues in their hearts
But when I think of you, pretty baby
That’s when another shower starts
Into each life some rain’s got to fall
These lyrics are about a failed romantic relationship . But I have always hung on to the notion that eventually, after the hard bits of life the sun will eventually shine again. It always does.
For this reason I like in particular these 4 lines from the song.
Into each life some rain must fall
But too much is falling in mine
Into each heart some tears must fall
But someday the sun will shine
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